Posted by: Kate | August 31, 2015

Summer of Patience

This is a place for honesty. I don’t want people to see my blog and think I’m a Pollyanna or some perpetually happy-go-lucky woman. Life is real, and sometimes difficult and sometimes frustrating. (But, I am a count my blessings kind of woman, and I freely admit it. It’s hard to really get me down.)

I have been having back issues for a number of years now, including on and off sciatica nerve discomfort. This spring, while trying to garden, my back and sciatica were bothering me enough to go ask my doctor for advice. After talking to me about the sciatic pain he ordered a CAT scan.

Meanwhile, summer moved on and in early July I wrenched my back lifting groceries out of the car. A little thing, but lately that’s all it seems to take to really make my back hurt. We did the road trip with me in a lot of discomfort with sciatic nerve pain (didn’t detract from the amazing trip, but was a frustration for sure). I had my CAT scan in mid August and saw the doctor today.

Apparently, I’ve got some serious damage. I was hoping he’d say physio or massage therapy, but he said he was shocked at the extent of the scarring. So next up is a specialist. My doctor is strongly recommending surgery.

Pain tolerance seems to be such a personal thing. My doctor said he was surprised at the extent of the damage because I wasn’t presenting with the pain he would have expected. I have pain, just don’t see the point in dwelling on it or describing it in detail. Spend more than a day with me and you’ll know from watching me that I’m in discomfort. Mr. Kate thinks because of my chronic bladder disease I likely already have a higher pain threshold than some people, and I do think it gives me the patience to cope with the pain.

So my summer has been one of patience. I haven’t swum in the ocean or any lakes – a first for me. The pain is actually worse in the water and so I haven’t wanted to risk it. I haven’t gardened as bending to weed or prune puts too much pressure on my lower back. I’ve read. A lot.

But, the summer has been beautiful and I have appreciated it all the same. I don’t think of myself as an optimist, but I do prefer to see the beauty in the world than dwell on the negative. Life is too short to let it get me down, and I’m having too much fun in so many ways.


A quick trip to Rathtrevor Beach a couple of weeks ago, to reconnect with old friends, was a great summer treat.



  1. Sciatica is awful. Thankfully I only had to deal with it during pregnancy. I’m sorry to hear you are having to deal with this! I strongly feel there is a strong mind – body connection. When I work to maintain a positive attitude, I think, at least for me, I feel better. If you end up having surgery, your positive attitude will serve you well. Keep us posted.

    • Thanks Liz. Pain is an interesting journey, for sure.

  2. Oh Kate, I am just getting caught up on my blog reading and was so sorry to hear you are dealing with back issues. I hope you are able to get in quickly to see the specialist, and that he/she has a solution that means next summer you can enjoy swimming and gardening and all the other things you missed out on this year.

    • Thanks Kristie. Me too!

  3. Oh dear! Your approach is very much a positive one and that has to be good thing. Hopefully, you won’t have to wait too much longer for the back problem to be sorted out. Ros x

    • Still waiting on the call from the surgeon’s office, but yes hoping it happens quickly.

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