Posted by: Kate | March 20, 2015

Forty-Two

As we were leaving a meeting the other night someone said to me, “Kate, you look great these days.¬†Your hair is lovely, you look so healthy. Do you feel different? Do you notice it?”

I looked at her and said, “I’m embracing my 40s.”

It’s the truth. This week I turned 42. I feel great, even if I do have an extra five pounds this decade that I am determined to lose. I love colouring my hair and wearing it long again. I feel more confident in who I am and who I want to be.

I think part of that is Bushboy getting older. I was exhausted in my 30s. That kid didn’t sleep and as a spirited child he quite naturally demanded a lot of my attention both physically and mentally. I didn’t have much of myself to spare for, well, myself. But now he is older and those demands have drastically reduced. I’m looking at my life as mine again. And I’m appreciating it.

I don’t wish I could go back and redo anything, as I believe you are who you need to be at any given time. But I am glad I have found this contentment with myself and this confidence. I like who I am, and feel no need to make apologies anymore. I’m walking lighter these days.

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Posted by: Kate | March 15, 2015

Fifteen

I remember 15. I left private school for a public high school – all at my instigation and with reluctant support from my parents once they realized I couldn’t be swayed. I found a new academic program at a high school across town from where we lived, and arranged for an interview. I took charge.

I met my husband at 15. I met my closest friend at 15.

Bushboy turned 15 this week. My little boy. 15.

And remembering all those things of my life at 15, I am forced to respect that he also knows his mind. That things are now happening in his life that may be in play for the rest of his life. That he is capable of making decisions, as I was, that will shape his directions and intentions.

He is working now, part-time at a coffee shop. He always has been his own person, but he is becoming his own young adult.

Parenting at this age is trickier. It is a lot more of suggesting, of calmly guiding, of listening intently. It is beginning to let go and yet loving and supporting fiercely.

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We are at the beginning of a new type of partnership, this boy and I. Exciting, terrifying and exhilarating.

Posted by: Kate | March 7, 2015

The Dog That Wanted to be a Swimsuit Model

All his life, I think Chika has secretly yearned to be a swimsuit model. He walks with a sway, and he tosses with the best of them. Doubtful? You be the judge….

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Work it, puppy, work it!

Posted by: Kate | March 1, 2015

Walking in the Light

February was an unseasonably mild and dry month here on the coast. I know it’s not necessarily a good thing for a rain forest eco-system, and it could be a symptom of the changing climate, but it’s hard to be upset about it when it feels like April and the sun is shining. I can’t remember a winter here when we’ve had so much sunshine, and it is reflected in people’s moods for sure (the west coast and it’s grey winters are notorious for causing seasonal moodiness).

Winter isn’t over and we are all hesitant to count it out before April as March can be a fickle month. But February was one for the books.

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Posted by: Kate | February 25, 2015

Through Someone Else’s Eyes

Down in Victoria a few weeks ago Bushboy decided to play with my camera. He was experimenting with my big detachable flash, seeing the difference it made in lighting and exposure. He snapped some photos of me while he was playing and one of them I was quite taken with.

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I like that it is slightly out of focus (ah, there’s that word!). I was talking to Mr. Kate and relaxing after a fun day. My feet are almost always curled up when I am sitting, mostly because I can’t touch the ground on most chairs and couches. I am wearing a pair of my knitted socks and my favourite comfy fleece pants. I look relaxed and happy, and I like to see that.

I am usually behind the camera. It means a lot to me to have Bushboy pick up my camera and take a picture of me, and that he captured this moment in time. A short focus of me.

Posted by: Kate | February 21, 2015

Where I Walk

Often my walks are taken right in the neighbourhood. I watch familiar gardens year-round, delighting in the subtle changes as the months go by. Chika sniffs familiar landmarks, noting which dogs have been where and when. I know which way the wind will catch me as I turn a corner. And I know when I turn down the two hills in my loop, that I will see the ocean and then the mountains. And it never fails to make me glad.

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Posted by: Kate | February 18, 2015

Unseasonable Weather

Although we often have a stretch of warm weather in February, this year has been particularly mild. The whole winter has been, with less rain, less wind and warmer temperatures. We’ve barely even had frost over night. That’s not really a good thing, as it means a dry summer like last year, unless we get a wet spring. And of course, as we always remind ourselves out here, the bad weather can show up any time.

Meanwhile, we are basking in warm weather and the gardens are waking up. These two pictures were taken a day apart, of the flowering white current at my front door.

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With the light coming back in the evenings as well it feels like April out there. Quite disconcerting and hard to remember that it is only February.

Posted by: Kate | February 14, 2015

Creating and Catching Up

Last week-end was a week-end I look forward to every year – the annual scrapbooking retreat my friend and I attend at Shawnigan Lake School. Between the well organized event, the great food, the beautiful surroundings, the lovely B&B and most importantly the fabulous friend, it was a great two days. Top it off with an extra night in Victoria with our favourite little guy, and the long week-end was awesome. But it left little time to get back to a new semester and a crazy busy short work week!

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85 people attended on the Saturday, with 40 of us there the Friday night. Really cool to see all the creative things people are working on.

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After six of these events, I have gotten quite good at getting myself ready to scrap, and was very pleased to put together 21 pages this time. Love coming home to fill my scrapbooks!

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Shawnigan Suites B&B is a wonderful place – this was our second time there and it didn’t disappoint.

I’ve already got next year marked on the calendar.

Posted by: Kate | February 5, 2015

He’s a Lover

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Hubert. Built like a linebacker, almost square when he sits on a couch or chair. He is the most timid of our cats, hiding when someone new is in the house. But once he gets to know you he will adore you. Either from the safety of the floor where he will gaze at you for hours, or from your lap, where somehow he manages to end up without you being sure how he even got there. For such a big cat he is amazingly stealthy! He is the lover and the talker of the group, and I treasure him for the loving affection he brings.

Posted by: Kate | February 1, 2015

Sometimes a Little Polish is What’s Needed

I’m what most people consider an earthy sort. Don’t wear make-up, rarely bother to blow dry my hair. Don’t worry too much about what I’m wearing. But some days, it is nice to do something out of character. When my office switched companies we were given gift certificates for a local spa as a welcome. This week-end I treated myself to a pedicure.

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Some days you just have to let the girlie out.

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