Posted by: Kate | March 3, 2008

A Sense of Community

How do we create a community for ourselves? How do we find those like-minded individuals who share a passion, a hobby, a life style, or other interests with us? This question has been a common theme in my life for a long time, and one that I think many other people ask themselves again and again.

A community gives us encouragement, feedback, a sense of belonging, and a home base. Community used to be much easier to find, when neighbours knew each other better and we weren’t all so busy in our individual lives. For those within a church or lifestyle, often the community comes from those beliefs or lifestyles. I see friends who are involved in their church and I appreciate the community they have surrounded themselves with.

With only one child and not much in the way of extended family we have tried to create a community around us. We have become friendly with our neighbours, our librarian, and others in the community at large. But community is also finding like-minded families and individuals, and that has been hard here.

For myself, I have discovered a sense of community here on the internet. And I know we don’t really know one another when we have never met face to face, but it is a sense of community none-the-less. (Think pen pals.) Artists who are interested in playing as I am. Parents raising their children and finding common ground in our approaches or styles. Knitters (oh the world of internet knitters – Ravelry you amaze me) who are so open and are as passionate about this craft as I am. The sense of community this brings is real, and though perhaps it is not a substitute for the real one I am creating here in my physical world, it still gives me comfort and encouragement and inspiration and many other things. So to those who visit, and to those whose blogs I visit, a heartfelt thank you. Thank you for being part of my community.


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  1. I like your thoughts about creating community. I find that it is a lifelong mission. Friends and family both take nurturing and maintenance. When my husband and I married I insisted that we belong to a church together, as a couple, and I agreed to follow his choice–a very liberal church that does not emphasize doctrine. For us it has been a great community–one in which we have been more or less involved, as the years progress, and in which we have developed smaller communities. I managed to combine my love of knitting with my church community, by starting a “Fiber ARts Circle” of 12 women who are passionate about some fiber art. We meet once a month to share our lives, our creations and our plans. Once a year, as a group, we do a “service” project of some sort. Other knitting communities for me are at the local yarn/coffee shop, some knitters across the Atlantic, and of course the internet knitters! I’ve also used knitting to connect with youth–to preserve the art and to become involved in the lives of youngsters. I believe that not enough adults in our world are involved with children other than their own. I’m kind of wandering at this point, but I support you in your search for community!

  2. Great post Kate. I too love this internet community and have been lucky to meet 3 of my blogging/internet friends…and they were all just as great in person as they were online.

    My husband and I have lived here for 6 years and although we have family close by and I’ve made a few friends we don’t have a “community” of friends around us and we both miss that.

  3. :-)

  4. THAT WASN’T SUPPOSED TO BE A STUPID SMILEY, IT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE A COLON, DASH, CLOSE BRACKET. How annoying. All I wanted to do was smile at you, and instead I got this stupid emoticon.

    Sorry.

  5. A smile is a smile, I will take it in the spirit of the colon, dash and close bracket you intended.

    Thanks Shannon.

  6. I was thinking of my mom in the fiftys on the street she lived on and how all the women had kids and knew each other and everyday was get togeather day for coffee and some of them were knitters . My mom would talk about how fast a knitter this one lady was and was always wearing her creations and how it bugged my mom,becasue she couldnt seem to finish anything! I don’t know if I’d like to be ambushed every time I wondered out to the front yard but I think we miss something of that comeradire(sp?) they had. I feel it on the ‘net though. I don’t know any of my neighbors and its my own fault, I havent tried but sometimes I think it would be neat to just have somebody you can just drop in on and it would be ok, they wouldnt freak cause their house isn’t clean or they were still in their pj’s. Maybe you can only do that to family.

  7. You all have such wonderful thoughts and things to say.

    Gail – I agree that more adults should interact with children other than their own. That is a sentiment near and dear to me.

    Kate – I’ve heard it said that this island is difficult, because people move here to do things rather than to be part of something. Maybe there is some merit to that concept …. this town has a reputation of being difficult to move into anyhow!

    Olga – A happy medium would be nice, wouldn’t it? I think as some of my friends’ children get older the whole dropping in for coffee will get easier.

  8. I’d like to think that if we met we’d be in the art/teaching c ommunity? I too love the closeness and community feeling I’ve gotten from the net its opened up so many…people,thoughts, words and ideas to me that I porb would not have found in real life. I love your writing great post!

  9. I like to say that I have been blessed with a “Norman Rockwell” neighborhood. We borrow butter and sugar and tools (and sometimes go in our PJs to borrow coffee) from each other. We scold each other’s children for not looking both ways before crossing the street and pass out popsicles in the summer.

    The truth of the matter is that my husband and I created this community by introducing ourselves to all of our neighbors, by inviting them over for a cold drink and by delivering a plate of warm cookies. We opened our home and our hearts to them and have been rewarded with an absolutely delightful, almost fairytale, neighborhood.


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